So this video is popular now. And a bunch of idiots subscribe to it’s ideals. I take extreme issue with this because that is the exact purpose of Facebook, to post freely.
About a month ago a friend of mine posted on Facebook about her cheating boyfriend. She posted his picture, the fact that he cheated, and some comments about him. All of our mutual friends were up in arms about it telling her that she should remove the post and that it looks bad on her etc. I had a run in with my uncle in-law, mother, and aunties behind a Facebook post I made that had a heavy amount of curse words in it. In the last two years employers have been asking for potential employee’s Facebook and other social network passwords. I have a frat brother and I know of a couple other people that have a regular Facebook account for socializing, but also have a “clean” Facebook account to for socially networking with people that they want to keep at bay. I mentioned all of this to say that this is wrong. ALL WRONG!
For those that were not around for the explosion of social networking, or were too old to care about it until it became an almost required part of life, social networking is exactly what it sounds like. Social – Networking. That means sites cover specific elements of the social experience. You wouldn’t go to church on Sunday expecting to drink, chill, and talk about that bitch you hate a work would you? So why is it that people expect for online social networking to be any different? Social Networking mimics real life interaction. Facebook is a general “meeting place” like a lounge. Dating sites are like a club, you go there expecting to meet someone and hopefully fuck some. Porn sites are like a strip club. The comparisons go on but I feel that I shouldn’t have to go on because this stuff should be common sense.
For black people social networking started with Blackplanet.com [I don’t know what white people had]. For those of us that went to college there was collegeclub.com, and then Facebook exploded on the scene and changed the entire realm of social networking. Before Facebook, my generation was doing just fine with online social networking. The generation in front of us did not care. Social Networking was just for us and everybody after. Then Facebook came along and became so popular that the generation(s) in front of us turned their heads. So now my generation had to share something that was originally intended for us. That is when the “Keep your image” factor came in. Truth be told the generation in front us does the same things, thinks the same things, and says the sames things that we do, they just don’t have the mind frame or up bringing to say it “out loud” [or post it]. We do and that is what makes us different. Differences are cool and define us. However, the generation(s) in front of us are the hiring managers, superintendents, general managers, CEO’s and so on. So what they believe kind of dictates what happens…for now.
In response to the down fall of Facebook and other sites due to the ideals of generations before us being framed as the law of the land, our generation created Linkedin.com and other sites like it. But sadly, the damage was already done. The generation(s) before us already knew what the real deal was, so the “protected image” social networking sites were rendered ineffective in separating the online social experience, as it should be.
The lyrics to the song in the video above say:
You need to keep your business off of Facebook (repeated), the things that you say people find out anyway. You need to keep your business off of Facebook (repeated), the pictures that you post should be a sin cuz you doing the most. You need to keep your business off of Facebook (repeated), Sunday you act like a saint but your facebook post say you aint. Tell your neighbor, tell your friend, You need to keep your business off of Facebook.
If I saw that guy in person [and I plan on forwarding this article to him and his church] I would tell him in these exact words:
“How about you stay your ass off of Facebook and stop judging people. Better yet, just delete your whole online presence”.
Everyone that does not understand Social Networking and it’s intended purpose should do the same. Go offline if that is where you want to be and what you are used to. You can’t come into a “new world” with an old mindset. They don’t mix. Taking a passage from the Bible Matthew 9:14-17. It reads thusly:
Then came to him the disciples of John, saying, Why do we and the Pharisees fast oft, but thy disciples fast not?
15 And Jesus said unto them, Can the children of the bridechamber mourn, as long as the bridegroom is with them? but the days will come, when the bridegroom shall be taken from them, and then shall they fast.
16 No man putteth a piece of new cloth unto an old garment, for that which is put in to fill it up taketh from the garment, and the rent is made worse.
17 Neither do men put new wine into old bottles: else the bottles break, and the wine runneth out, and the bottles perish: but they put new wine into new bottles, and both are preserved.
In the end we are left with a sucky, revenue exploited, damned-if-you-do-damned-if-you-don’t online social experience. That is not what I want. I remember when online social networking was fun. You could spend an entire day just flicking through risque pictures, post, and information from your friends that they didn’t mind sharing because no one was judging them. It was liking having a house party without leaving your couch. Those were the days. I want to get back to that, and I am chasing that unrealistic dream with all that is in me. Can we please please please stop with the shenanigans like the video above and get back to having fun. Remember fun?